Our Deepest Desires

The two deepest desires most people have are (1) to love and be loved and (2) to believe they are worthwhile and know someone else believes that too.

Humans are social creatures, and we need connection and belonging. We want to feel loved and accepted for who we are. We also want to feel like we have a purpose in life and that our lives are meaningful. When we feel these things, we are happier and more fulfilled.

There are many ways to meet these desires. We can find love and acceptance in our relationships with family and friends. We can find purpose and meaning in our work, hobbies, and volunteer activities. We can also find it in our spiritual beliefs. One of the primary ways to meet our deepest desires is through our sexual experiences.

If we are struggling to meet these desires, there are things we can do to help ourselves. We can reach out to others for support. We can find activities that we are passionate about.  

It is important to remember that we are all worthy of love and acceptance. We are all unique and special in our own way. We deserve to feel good about ourselves and to have fulfilling relationships.

Finding deep and long-lasting intimacy with your sexual partner is not easy. There are times when libido mismatch can strain a purely monogamous relationship and consensual non-monogamy may be a viable option.

It is important to have friends who love and support us. It is also important to love ourselves and to know that we are worthwhile. If we are struggling to love ourselves, we can talk to trusted friends or seek professional help. We can also learn to love ourselves by doing things that make us feel good about ourselves, such as spending time with loved ones, doing things we enjoy, and taking care of our physical and emotional health.

Find friends to love and be loved by; people who think you’re worthwhile. Love yourself and know that you are worthwhile. Talk to trusted friends; be patient and generous with yourself. We can learn to live again. We can learn to love again.

It is never too late to learn to love again. If we have been hurt in the past, it can be difficult to trust others and to open our hearts up to love. However, it is important to remember that not everyone is the same. There are people out there who will love us for who we are. We just need to be patient and willing to put ourselves out there.

I hope you find the love and support you need. You are worthy of it.

Sex Science with Dr. Zhana

I just watched a great video by Dr. Zhana that introduced her new open relationship course. I’m a big fan! I like the way she explained the types of non-monogamous relationship and the relationship map on the security/exploration axis.

You can check out her course here: https://www.drzhana.com/open-smarter.

You can check out her video below:

Here’s a quote from Dr. Zhana.

Our society tells us that we can’t indulge in our sexual wild side and be healthy, safe, and ethical. Luckily, scientific research—and my own extensive personal experience—suggest otherwise. It’s all about having smarter tools to navigate the increased complexity of an unconventional lifestyle.

The monogamish relationship type resonates with me. She calls it “Hot Monogamy”. What about you? Are you into CNM?

I believe in the wisdom of the crowd and as I explore this new relationship model, I’m looking for sex positive CNM sexology researchers, sex educators and CNM practitioners willing to share insights and guidance.

I’m all ears! 😁

Warm regards,

Mark Fleshman