I just watched a great video by Dr. Zhana that introduced her new open relationship course. I’m a big fan! I like the way she explained the types of non-monogamous relationship and the relationship map on the security/exploration axis.
Our society tells us that we can’t indulge in our sexual wild side and be healthy, safe, and ethical. Luckily, scientific research—and my own extensive personal experience—suggest otherwise. It’s all about having smarter tools to navigate the increased complexity of an unconventional lifestyle.
The monogamish relationship type resonates with me. She calls it “Hot Monogamy”. What about you? Are you into CNM?
I believe in the wisdom of the crowd and as I explore this new relationship model, I’m looking for sex positive CNM sexology researchers, sex educators and CNM practitioners willing to share insights and guidance.
This blog is all about love. I read this today and felt compelled to share. I recorded it too.
DailyOM-Love Should Fee Good
Real love feels good and uplifting, not jealous or anxious, and does not compromise who you are as a person.
Often in our lives, we fall prey to the idea of a thing rather than actually experiencing the thing itself. We see this at play in our love lives and in the love lives of our friends, our family, and even fictional characters. The conceptualizing, depiction, and pursuit of true love are multimillion-dollar industries in the modern world. However, very little of what is offered actually leads us to an authentic experience of love. Moreover, as we grasp for what we think we want and fail to find it, we may suffer and bring suffering to others. When this is the case, when we suffer more than we feel healed, we can be fairly certain that what we have found is not love but something else.
When we feel anxious, excited, nervous, and thrilled, we are probably experiencing romance, not love. Romance can be a lot of fun as long as we do not try to make too much of it. If we try to make more of it than it is, the romance then becomes painful. Romance may lead to love, but it may also fade without blossoming into anything more than a flirtation. If we cling to it and try to make it more, we might find ourselves pining for a fantasy, or worse, stuck in a relationship that was never meant to last.
Real love is identifiable by the way it makes us feel. Love should feel good. There is a peaceful quality to an authentic experience of love that penetrates to our core, touching a part of ourselves that has always been there. True love activates this inner being, filling us with warmth and light. An authentic experience of love does not ask us to look a certain way, drive a certain car, or have a certain job. It takes us as we are, no changes required. When people truly love us, their love for us awakens our love for ourselves. They remind us that what we seek outside of ourselves is a mirror image of the lover within. In this way, true love never makes us feel needy or lacking or anxious. Instead, true love empowers us with its implicit message that we are, always have been, and always will be, made of love.
This article is printed from DailyOM – Inspirational thoughts for a happy, healthy and fulfilling day.
Get ready to enjoy your day with a book so crammed full of love it will touch your life forever.
This book contains buckets of love encapsulated in a series of letters, poems and musings intended to give its reader a look into the insatiable love that words can conjure up.
Curious readers perusing these letters will be astounded and enthralled by the emotions etched onto the pages of this book. It will entice and entrap you into the world of a love-starved romantic from where the only means of escape is by sharing your terms of endearment with the ones you love.
You are something special, someone special.
I am so happy you came into my life.
My days become more full and enjoyable,
as I anticipate your morning message to me.
My heart pounds uncontrollably,
as I approach my computer and check my message inbox.
What will you say today?
Will you posture yourself in a sense of openness, ready, willing and anxious to receive my love into your torn and tattered heart?
Yes, it is true.
Yes, it is possible.
Yes, it is me.
The one you have been waiting for.
The one you have been dreaming of.
The one for you.
As I pierce your heart with cupid’s arrow,
you succumb to my advances and reciprocate my every desire.
We embrace and embark on an endless journey of lovemaking,
so fulfilling, and well beyond our wildest dreams.
Say you want me as I say I want you.
Say you love me, as I say I love you.
Take my love inside of you and join our hearts together,
so we can both be whole again.
Do it now.
It was meant to be.
It was meant to happen.
Let it be.
Let yourself go and come into my world, our world, the world of life long love and eternal bliss.
If only for a moment.
Let it be.
Please let it be.
I used to think angels were sent from another world, swooping down from heaven above on a mission to save the chosen few. Then I met you. You seemed like an everyday person, a human, someone fragile and imperfect like me, someone with limitations, who could only go so far and so fast. I was skeptical and I didn’t think it was going to work and then you surprised me.
Only the heavens could have heard my pleas for a woman in my life like you. I know because I never told anyone else what I wanted. I just prayed and prayed for a godsend, a woman like you who could feed my passion for life and mend my broken heart.
I needed an angel, a woman with a special love potion who could treat my love sickness and nurse me back to health. You healed me. You reminded me of something I thought I had lost, a burning desire to hear the pleasures of a woman in delight, that magical sound of a woman’s voice leaning into a crescendo of great pleasure.
And as you record the sound, from your lips to my ears, every fiber of my inner being delights too. As you moisten, I harden. As you reach yours, I reach mine. The sound of your voice is exactly what I wanted and exactly what I needed to make me feel whole again.
You know what I need. You give me a dose of your sensual nature as we make love in our own special way. You keep coming back and you give me more and more. And I am so grateful. I am so happy. I am blessed to have you in my life.
You came into my life basking in the light of glory from above. I behold you now and I am humbled by your choice of me as your grateful love today.
Yes, you are my angel and you are that sweet morning song that plays in my head every morning when I wake up to find your love potion, your message of love. Yes, my lovely angel, you know who you are and I know who you are. You are my angel of love, sent from above. And now that I have you in my life I never want to let go. I am yours to keep for as long as you want, from now until eternity.
Time stands still for us as we live these moments, enjoying these feelings of passionate love. Do you enjoy it as much as me? I could never have enough of you, and just when I think you have given me so much, you reach new heights and out of nowhere you surprise me and you give me more. You are that dream come true and I cannot begin to express in words how lucky I feel to have found you and have you in my life.
I thought I knew how to make love and then I met you. You taught me how to savor every moment I spent making love to you. Like a fine wine, you were meant to be sipped and not gulped. You tickled my ear and fed my obsession for sex with a healthy dose of self-pleasure. It wasn’t just the sound of your voice that took me over the top, you teased me with your picture too. You showed just enough to make me want even more, and then you made me explode with delight. But there was more to your love than just a minute of passion. You showed me how to make love in the here and now, and also in the before and after. You gave me just enough to quench my thirst, and not too much to keep me from coming back for more. It happened over and over again and I enjoyed each and every time like it was my first, never thinking it would be my last.
Every part of you became a part of me if only for a brief moment. You healed my spirit. You made me feel alive again. You brought out the best of me and made me so articulate with my pen. But you know all of this. I’m not telling you anything new. You knew you had this effect on me, didn’t you? Didn’t you know all along how you made me feel deep inside when you whispered sweet sounds in my ear? What did you think was going to happen? Where did you think this was going?
Oh, please make love to me. Please do it again. Don’t leave me hanging. Yes, do it again. Say those words again, the terms of endearment, the words from your heart that melt my soul. Make love to me baby. Make me whole.
Before I met you my life was no fun, like a jigsaw puzzle with too many missing pieces. Then you healed the holes in my heart pierced so many times by Cupid’s arrow. I want you. I need you. I have to have you. Come for me now. Show me how you milk the cow. Make love to me baby. You know how I like it. I want to see you. I want to hear you. Make love to me baby. Come for me now.
Hold it. Not so fast. Let’s not get too carried away. Not just yet. I’m not ready yet. I want to pen a few more love notes today. You showed me something I never saw before. You gave me new hope for the future I never knew before. You didn’t just give me what I wanted, you gave me what I needed, to have faith in sweet love once again. Isn’t it lovely when you can change someone’s life in such a profound way? You did it for me and I’ll be eternally grateful.
The clouds have passed and you come out fresh and new, alive in my soul and felt in my spirit too. Can you feel me? I can feel you. Will you make love to me? I want to make love to you. I can feel the warmth from your heart, you are my sweet sunshine today. Thank you for being you. Wait, but I have more to say.
I have so much more love deep in my heart, for you and only for you. It is a special love coming to life, for you and only for you. Make it happen. Say the words. Express yourself in similar fashion. Sing sweet nothings to me, again and again, and make me grow hard and strong. Today I have nothing to fear. It is a bright day, a sunny day, a lovely day. Let’s make love like there’s no tomorrow. Give me your all today. Make love to me baby. Let’s savor this special moment and enjoy the pleasures of life lived lovingly once more.
We hover in a kind of passionate abyss, dance to a song without form. Ours is the realm without borders, the house without walls, the private place where we meet, just the two of us, all alone.
We live here, nowhere and at the same time everywhere. Claim nothing. Do not yield to the structure of names. You and me are not even you and me; for now we are in the melted space, not even a space. It’s a special place.
You and me and love. We are the paradox of two and one and three – the trinity that adds up to nothing and yet everything. We are in love.
Filled by the fullness that contains all things. We have love. Gone is the emptiness that contains nothing. Our eyes behold of the flooding light. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and I behold you and you are beautiful.
Love is beautiful. I see you. I wonder now – indeed I have already forgotten – how it was when I lived without you. Those days seem like they have faded away into the distant past. All I can think about is our bright future.
I can’t wait. Will I see you again? Is it time yet? Are you ready yet?
No worries. Keep doing what you are doing. Keep coming to me in this beautiful place as we fall into a misty joy, as we drink our love potion together.
Are you going to enjoy this beautiful and glorious day with me? Please do. As we make love in our place.